I also experienced that they’re unable to do anything on their own.
When I ask them about how they got their cellphone or credit card they just answer they don’t know because their wife did it for them.
Japanese guys are often too shy, scared or whatever and the majority of Western men is only interested in Japanese / Asian women.
As a result it is tough to find a date as a foreign woman here in Japan.
Consequently they don’t see the need to study Japanese, because their wives will take care of it all.
One big problem seems to be the fact that in Japan the man earns the money, but the woman takes care of it!
Before we start talking about “Dating in Japan” one thing should be crystal clear: If you’ve ever been to Japan you might have noticed that there’s a tremendous number of (often not so handsome) foreign guys walking hand-in-hand with Japanese women.
However, be warned: If you want to read about bragging stories of all those Western guys who get laid a hundred times per day, then you came to the wrong place. You certainly won’t find that here – and not from a foreign girl like me!
For some reason Japanese women seem to find even ugly foreign guys attractive …..
Things that they fear a foreign woman would not agree to do (e.g.
stay home, take care of the kids, always pour new alcohol into his empty glass etc.).
For some reason (maybe through the consumption of too many Hollywood movies) Japanese women think that foreign men are like that!
They’re not afraid of showing their feelings in public or telling their girls flat out how they feel about them. The extreme version of this is known as “gaijin hunter” and some will do everything for the sake of having one of those adorable “half”-kids (half Western, half Japanese) just to toss their foreign guy later on.
I personally know a few couples where either the man or the woman is foreign and I noticed quite a lot of differences in the kind of relationship they have.