Braving "robbing the cradle" jokes, almost one-third of women between ages 40 and 69 are dating younger men (defined as 10 or more years younger).According to a recent AARP poll, one-sixth of women in their 50s, in fact, prefer men in their 40s.One thing is for sure, girls are dating older guys much more so now than ever before thus shunning what society and the gossipers think.Not surprisingly, the wider the age gap the wider the controversy.That little voice keeps reminding her about her biological clock and once she does the math in terms of how long it might take to find and test out selected guys as potential dad material, she'll worry she'll miss the biological boat if she doesn't start searching for "commitment" as opposed to "good times."Keep reading...Unlike guys in their 20s, men in their 30s and above have an established sense of who they are in this world and what they’re doing with their lives.
Winter tells Web MD that she and her co-author interviewed more than 200 couples for their book. Such men (at least the ones interested in older women) are stable and mature. They want a woman who knows who she is." Still, even Winter admits, this may not be for everyone.
Are there simply more benefits dating someone much older or much younger?
Understanding Young Women It's been well established that women are attracted to older guys.
"The women," he says, "were more interested in men their own age or older." As for the men, he says: "I guess it could be nice not to hang around a ditz with no knowledge of music or something like that." "We have strong 'shoulds' on ways of partnering up," Kathryn Elliott, Ph D, assistant professor of psychology at the University of Louisiana at Lafayette, explains to Web MD. We pathologize anything that isn't within those shoulds." The key to making older women/younger man relationships work, Elliott says, is to match what she calls voltages.
"Choose someone who is your voltage type -- has the same level of intensity about life.
This makes them much more relaxed and less eager to impress (which is never an impressive quality) than their younger counterparts.