They’re self-limiting beliefs – beliefs that you allow to take over your life and restrict you from achieving what you hope to achieve. When you tell yourself that you will never ________ because only X guys do _______ and you’re not X, you’re artificially cutting yourself off from any and all possibilities.
If, for example, you believe that only “alpha” – for a suitably mistaken definition of “alpha” men get women, then that will be part of your reality.
I live in Delhi, a very large and diverse city, and yet it has been nearly impossible over the past almost four years to meet a single guy willing to go on a date. But Me is a rather enthu patani who likes to find patterns everywhere, so Me began to formulate all sorts of theories around dating for smart, educated, independent women over 28 in urban India.
So when I stumbled upon 100 Dates of Summer, I was inspired to take the idea and run with it.
There’s a reason why “just be yourself” is one of the most annoyingly useless advice cliches out there.
If you want a longer story, look in the sidebar, where you can find out my history, my theories and the problems I face.
I said I would be unlikely to go again because I have nothing in common to talk about with the men that I have met at these events.
He proceeded to give me a lecture as to why I shouldn’t automatically dismiss dating the two guys who were responsible for service washes in the launderette as they may be perfectly nice people and that career women in their thirties get what they deserve if they don’t.
I am just wondering how many other men think like this?
For me, it seems plain common sense that, while professional women with masters degrees may be compatible with men in less successful professions, the guy that left school with no qualifications to work in the launderette is highly unlikely to be a good fit.
I was at a speed dating event last night for the second time.