Why you do it: Constantly thinking about someone indicates that, on some level, you feel that you need that individual in your life – or else.In most cases, this sense of desperation comes from a fear that if you don’t seal the deal immediately and develop a cement-like bond, that individual will slip through your fingers and you will be left all alone, never to meet anyone again whom you really like.However, it’s not normal to constantly think about him or her.
I’ll point out the main signs that you’re rushing things, and provide a no-nonsense explanation of why you’re doing it so that you can have that a-ha moment and actually change your approach to dating.
This emotional hunger suggests that you don’t feel that you have a fulfilling social circle or extended family of your own.
Instead of hoping to submerge yourself wholeheartedly into someone else’s social group, make a conscious effort to beef up your own so that you don’t have to depend on a romantic partner to provide you with an overall sense of belonging.
When you first meet someone, it’s actually pretty easy to paint that person with one large brushstroke because you really don’t know that much about him.
In other words, because you don’t have much information, you decide to fill in the blanks by using your own imagination.
You tell yourself that he is the funniest or sweetest or sexiest guy you’ve ever dated; that he totally understands you; and that you get along with him more easily than with anyone else in the past.