And when you do get into a relationship after divorce, even if the guy is faithful to you and is madly in love with you, you may not believe anything he says.This can happen because in the back of your mind, you'll have this ongoing chorus playing: "All men are just like my ex-husband. All men fall out of love and break up with you." It plays like a country song accompanied by an out-of-tune guitar.First, ask yourself if the person you're with has the qualities you'd want in a long-term partner. Or is the physical attraction blinding you to how wrong you really are for each other?Another question to ask: Am I happy alone even without a man in my life?
You'll scare away the men who have it together because they'll recognize your distrust immediately.As you heal from your divorce and think about the lessons you learned from it, your new relationship can be transformed from a rebound relationship to a real relationship, as long as it's based on more than just physical attraction.3. It's time to start having an internal dialogue with yourself.Did you spend enough time alone after your divorce to really think about what caused the collapse of your marriage?Replace that chorus with something more melodious, something like: "I'm having a lot of fun getting to know my new man (or my date) and finding out what good qualities he has." With each man you meet, you want to start with a clean slate. Notice all the ways your new man or date is different from your ex-husband.If you're still having difficulties trusting men after divorce simply by using your logic, I have found one of the most effective ways to release your distrust is to use what's called Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT), which involves tapping on acupressure points.She is being treated as an inpatient and discussed what life has been like for her over the last few years.“I feel as if I’ve been in the middle of a war zone for an extended period of time.