I think a lot of women will agree with me on that.women on there? It's almost as if women are concerned that if they said what's wrong with me, it would confirm stereotypical views about what women want, and that's an area that's so controversial it must be avoided at all times. Girls are just offering *nothing* at all about what I should be doing differently. Props for not wanting to treat women like products in a catalogue.It certainly looks like a collective problem at this point, as if they are all finding the same few things wrong with me. I haven't had one person anywhere say "let's see your profile," or anything like that. And props for being smart/realistic enough to know that life/love don't always work out nicely for everyone like the world says it will.I don't believe I should be selling myself like a brand, and I don't believe it is even ethical for me, or anyone, to search through hundreds of profiles as if they were trading cards with different stats for strength, beauty, and intelligence, and then pick out what you want. A marketplace for a "special someone" is an extremely twisted idea IMHO.To say it's not a marketplace would be to tell me "just be yourself and replies will pour in", that is NOT the case here. It's either that we don't know how to write a profile, or don't know how to write a message, or that we just take bad profile pics. It's either that we don't know how to write a profile, or don't know how to write a message, or that we just take bad profile pics.Do you have to get ripped and take your shirt off for dating success?No..I guarantee that it would help...a lot, and anybody (woman or man) who says any different is lying to you through their teeth/keyboard.
I guess the point is, I came here and other places asking what can a super-shy person do, if they want some kind of relationship, and inevitably they all say "dating site." Partly this message is for those people who make this suggestion. Now, I'm thinking my looks are the problem, and I need to start thinking I'm simply unattractive. And by "you" I mean people in general - not you specifically.
I just never wanted to say or do something embarrassing, so I held back except when I was with my family and close friends.
I’m not like that anymore, but there are millions of people who are.
in the future, when someone is shy or a loser, it's a better idea that you tell these "shy loser guys" just to give up and stare at the wall.. Also, in reference to someone's earlier post about guys suggesting that he bulk up and take a pic with his shirt off... It's either that we don't know how to write a profile, or don't know how to write a message, or that we just take bad profile pics.
Please don't - I doesn't send a very good message IMO. The first thing I thought when I read this was, I love myself so much that I am well acquainted with Rosy Palms. I've seen lots of guys stressing over not getting dates on POF, and when I look at their profile pic, I can see why. The exact profile pic I put up there, personally I consider to be one of my better ones.
It's like I could be telling you I put up a picture of sliced ham as my only picture, and you'd be saying "that's not the problem," etc. Stick to offline, let them get to know the real you. Do you have to get ripped and take your shirt off for dating success?