I’m right there in the trenches online at single parents' dating sites and on apps, looking for love and, mostly, looking to stay out of trouble.
Sometimes it seems I’m swimming in a very shallow dating pool, but I haven’t given up and taken in fifty cats. So here’s the down-low on dating sites I’ve tried as a SWM (single working mother). And remember: You can do it at home, at night after the kids go to bed, in your pajamas if you want. You set it up through your Facebook account and set your preferences within minutes.
Match lets you narrow your search terms, including whether your date has kids and his income range, which helps you filter.
Photos are easy to upload, and you can pick and choose how many questions you want to answer or leave blank.
You never know.) Searching for matches is super simple.
Once you’ve set age and distance preferences, you start swiping.
I can check that off my life to-do list and look for a man for love or companionship or sex – or all three. Whether the single part was by way of divorce, breakup, death or choice, it was a big deal, and that changed you. I have lunches to make and doctor appointments to schedule. Busy single moms have fewer lonely nights to fill, fewer dinners eaten alone.From search alone you only know age and distance, and then it’s up to the men to fill in the blanks briefly with some profile description. This leaves you wondering things like: • How tall is he? (My experience with Tinder was that men could waste your precious single-mom minutes messaging you back and forth.) Bumble’s biggest plus: You can “take back” a negative, left swipe for free (unlike Tinder)!So if I make a mistake or want a second look at someone, I can backtrack and revisit a potential match.A simple swipe left, and that dream guy is gone forever; a simple swipe right, and he could end up a match for life! The most frustrating aspect about Tinder: Once you swipe left, the man is gone for life unless you purchase an upgrade with the ability to take back your “swiping decision.” Plus, this site seems to be loaded with men who are simply collecting matches and “liking” you because they’re bored and need something to look at. ) In short, Tinder is known to be a hook-up app, so you’ll have to hunt hard to strike gold. —there you are, pretty as a picture in your new profile.Cons: Since you’re limited with your search parameters, you may sift through a lot of matches just to find one decent guy. Bumble Pros: What makes it unique is women have to pitch the first message. While there have been one or two saucy gentlemen I’ve come across, for the most part the men have wanted to go on dates pretty quickly. This kindness bleeds into your other relationships. Being a single mom means that you have been through at least three life-altering experiences.